Signs Your Husband Hates You
10 signs indicating your husband hates you. Why does it happen and what to do in such a situation? We’ll tell you everything.
It’s the biggest stress for every woman to discover she is not loved anymore.
Still, more difficult it is when he not only feels nothing towards her, but also starts hating a spouse.
What an nasty word – “to hate”! It bears so much negative meaning. There hasn’t been a worse word ever.
What are the signs your husband hates you? What are the reasons for its appearance and how to behave in such situations? You’ll get a complete answer in the article below.
Reasons for your husband’s hatred
A husband considers his spouse to be a fool.
Hatred towards wife more often than not appears, when a spouse thinks she is a fool.
She doesn’t understand elementary things and doesn’t know much about art/music/cinema/technology etc. She seems to know nothing at all!
She is able to lie on the sofa all day long and watch soap operas devoted to made-up and sniveling love.
Watching his beloved one eating sandwiches and watching TV, a man starts to get the first signs of irritation at first and, eventually, feels hatred.
A wife doesn’t care about her appearance.
Men don’t like women, who are always tattered and disheveled at home.
A wife doesn’t desire sex.
Sex in family life occupies so little time that a husband starts thinking of getting it on the side.
As a result, a husband hates his second half.
A wife controls every husband’s step.
She is constantly grumbling, arguing, and contradicting her husband.
Moreover, she is jealous and deprives his of his freedom.
A wife who is sure to be an egoist.
She always spends money on her needs and doesn’t care about husband’s needs, or refuses to clean the house and cook meals.
10 signs which prove your husband hates you
Mutual touches don’t bring happiness.
Between loving people embrace and unintended touches are a norm, which brings pleasure to both partners.
Unfortunately, it starts to irritate, when the feelings are lost.
Is your husband avoiding your casual caress?
It’s a sign you should think it over.
The absence of respect.
If in each argument a husband uses some offenses and tries to hurt with words as much as possible, is not looking for the reasons, but has a purpose to humiliate and blindside, it’s a sign to become alerted.
Especially, if it did not happen before.
Cruel jokes about your cooking abilities, inability to start a car from the first try, style in clothes, make-up or professional skills are also signs that a husband has no feelings for you anymore.
Now he is saying everything he was silent about earlier.
Nagging about trifles.
Things your husband didn’t notice and easily ignored become unbearable and burdensome.
You are always late from work, go to cafes with your friends, wear provocative clothes, sleep frivolously and take the blanket from him, don’t put the keys on their place – it may be anything.
The higher is the degree of alienation, the more drawbacks he may find.
Having no desire to consult.
Loving spouses usually make common cause and tell each other different things, which require common decision.
If a husband does absolutely everything, without you taking part in it, and doesn’t say to you about it generally, you are likely to realize that it’s the sign the love is gone.
Loss of sense of humour.
A husband is not able to laugh at a joke, when you feel fun and sincerely laugh?
Or he reacts maliciously and aggressively on the trick you played on him or on a funny remark?
These are all signs of hatred. If a husband can’t be happy with you, things are bad.
The compassion is gone.
Yes, he can support you, when you seriously have hard times, but is not capable of preparing a warm bath when you got frozen, or feel sorry for the torn favourite blouse.
Cheating not only physically.
If a husband has not only found a flame for some time, but a woman, who suits him and satisfies him on a psychological level, he is happy with her, and home seems just a boring routine, it’s easy to see the signs that you are not the loved wife anymore and, maybe, even the hated one.
You don’t feel protected.
When man’s feelings get cold, he doesn’t care much about the partner’s safety.
The feeling of the “reliable shoulder” nearby disappears and is replaces by uncertainty and despair.
No desire to settle sexual problems.
People, really tight to each other, will do their best to solve them.
In case the man is not interested why you “don’t want” and makes no attempts to change the conditions, the love is definitely gone.
What should you do when a husband hates you?
Spouses, who found themselves in such position, have several way-outs.
1. Keep patience and try to live in such circumstances.
You must remember that you’ll feel psychological pressure and misfortune every day.
In this case serious problems are inevitable, because men are inclined to violence.
They start beating the spouse, drinking a lot and cheating.
Women, on the other hand, fall in deep depression feeling husband’s hatred.
This depression may cause serious diseases.
It’s the most preferable way out in this situation, which will safe from suffering both spouses.
Though, this variant may be interfered with different facts, i.e. children or inability to leave separately. They cannot be reasons, which are solid enough for divorce, when the situation reached an impasse and is getting worse day by day.
In this case you must separate in the most civilized way.
Don’t have sorry for yourself.
You must look at the conditions from a different angle.
It’s a nice opportunity to change your life and turn it in another direction.
Having divorced, you may feel free and try to experience new feelings. Many women after divorce look different and become more attractive and sexy than ever, and an ex-husband, seeing it, regrets hating his former beloved one.
3. Try to fix the situation.
One can make the husband, if not love the wife again, then at least stop hating her.
In such circumstances it is sufficient to find a contact and have a heart-to-heart talk. You shouldn’t ask directly whether he wants to review his relationships with a spouse. More often than not such a situation oppresses him not less than his wife.
Hatred usually appears because the man cannot change the position he found himself in and isn’t able to tell you for some reasons. Trying to return his favour, never try to impose your feelings.
It may make the situation ever worse.
A common trip may help to bring back the former relationships.
If you spend more time together, it’ll do you only good. Nevertheless, you must also understand that a husband must be eager to fix things, too. Moreover, you may try to change your image, appearance, buy new lingerie and make him interested.
Each woman must decide on her own, which way to follow. She must see all pros and cons, think everything through and consult with close people.
Making such decision one may pay a visit to a psychologist. It’ll be even better, if both spouses turn for help.
A specialist can solve your problems and give some good pieces of advice on what to do next. Your husband may find it easier to talk to a stranger and feel after consultation relief, which can lead to the relationships’ normalization.
So, when you are having hard times in the relationships and start noticing signs that your husband hates you, don’t consider the situation not worthy of regard. It won’t fix itself.
You must solve your family problems together with your husband.
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I find part of this article disturbing in regards to number 1. » He sees his wife as a fool» The part that states he resents that his wife can sit on the couch all day eating sandwiches» is disgraceful. This article obviously was written by a man. Let me tell you something from personal experience. Even when I was working 60 hours a week as a preschool teacher, my husband was treating me like this. He worked for the state at 20 bucks an hour. I was working for 8 bucks an hour. He was always screaming at me even tho I contributed to the bills and paid most of them. He would scream and rage at me saying I wasn’t paying any bills, not true. Bitched because I didn’t make as much as him with his cushy state job. I have been verbally, emotionally, and physically abused for 34 years. He has diagnosed mental issues but refuses to take his meds. He rages all the time, has been kicked out of a couple of stores. He lost his 21 year state job because of his rage. I know he hates. To even suggest that a woman has any responsibility for that kind of hatred is beyond shameful.
By the way, we have been married for 20 years (2nd marriage) I am now a disabled 66 yr old woman. I have multiple life threatening heart conditions, and severe arthritis, as well as several health issues. Do ya think stress may be a factor?
He is 10 years younger than me, works full time at the post office, and claims he is always broke even tho he got 12,000$ in a settlement. He now has 5 bank accounts but I am supposed to believe he has no money stashed. Ya right. As far as sex goes, we were married in 1995, but by 1998 he no longer wanted a physical relationship even tho he was in his mid 30’s at that time. So lack of sex is his doing. I do not neglect my appearance, and I am not a nag or bitch due to being fearful of his rage. So explain to me how this is my fault, as you seem to indicate in this article.
I find the part of how woman are suppose to change for the man part of this article disturbing!
This is fucking stupid and useless. Thanks!
I wouldn’t let YOU pay me to heed this advice! Some of you advice is VERY dangerous!
A closed mindset is most dangerous.
Open your minds and let life flow in.
This is poorly written, misogynistec horseshit.
My husband of 27 years hates me. ..you why i think become im smart not stupid. Do more .laugh more. .and I stand up for myself. And have lots of common sense.
What a punching bullshit excuses for abusive jerks.
I would seriously want to meet the idiot who has written all these and wood like to ask him/her … About his /her married life….::
This much of research on finding out ways to make people unhappy
Someone give a noble prize to him/her…
Stupid .. And useless shit
Must been written by a man, this is b/s.
Hi i can see that there are alot of negative comments here.especially about the fool part. The writter didnt sat that woman are fools he/she tries to say that husbands look at their wives as fools no matter how smart they are the reason im saying this is coz i know how it feels. My husband is a really good man, hard-working he is a great father to our kids he is really kind and good hearted and very handsome yet he hates the 1 woman that truly loves him-me.
It hurts me so much to know this each day but whatever i read above in this article was true. He looks at me as a fool.he picks fights on every simple thing even if i had to speak to him in general the only thing im not sure yet if he is cheating.i wouldnt be surprised if he is.but the article above is so true in so many ways.i really love my husband but i think he just doesnt wanna see that and maybe he does find happiness else where.we have 3 kids who are very young so i think i should just be able to go thru this and suffer in silence.him hating me makes me so depressed but nevertheless i try to take each day with a big beautiful smile. God bless you all.
All of you who think this is «poorly written», wrong, sexist etc must be victims. Because for the rest of us who have atleast an ounce of common sense know that this article is dead on! How could you not hate/resent someone who’s lazy or unmotivated when you’re the one working hard and your «partner» won’t even have the houseckean or dinner made? I’m a woman. I agree with this article. Maybe thats why years ago people stayed married for so long because they built a partnership. They appreciated each other. And you’re a woman…put some makeup on your face or shave your legs. It’s not rocket science!!! Everyone knows what men want!!! Food, sex and money.
Jules, men are not that simple. And women can’t be expected to provide the man with food every day (if she is working her ass off making just as much as him, taking care of the kids mostly, doing all the housework, family finances, etc). He can’t expect her to always be ready and willing for sex after a long day of not helping her at all and just dragging her down, filling her mind with self-doubt, and hyper-critical of everything she did all day. All the money in the world won’t make a man happy. I’ve tried all these. Next!
How can my husband expect a happy wife who does everything for him when he is verbally abusive ? Why would i want to make him food , wash his clothes and have sex with him when he is mean as hell. I work my ass off and take care of his children from his previous marriage that was abusive as well. I have given him everything and he gets mad if i day the wrong thing. So i am told to shut my mouth. I take care of myself and always take care of our home . Never ever refused sex … in fact he is never in the mood because his pain pill issue . So if he wSnts to hate me so be it . I am tired of being alone and tired of being a punching bag. I am too young , have a great heart and i am attractive . I can only say sorry so many times for things that i didn’t do. I think some men are just not made to love a woman…. let alone themselves. I asked him if he hates me and he said he hates that i open my mouth. Lol and he said he almost hates me like he hates his ex wife and brother …. and i have the problem? I say he hates himself .
Well i’ve been married 25 years to a narcissist and I realized out of the blue for no reason he’ hate me he was a constant flirt with everybody he would . They always seem to treat us as if we’re fools And that’s only because they have done something horrible and has gotten away with it so they feel that we are fools but if they get caught they call it stupid and physically abusive that’s a narcissist