How to overcome shyness: 6 guidelines

You don’t know how to overcome shyness? We offer you several effective recommendations that will help you to get rid of shyness.


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Today I’d like to talk about a very interesting trait of character, called shyness.

Many people actually suffer from this problem and desire to overcome shyness, but they simply don’t know how it can be done…

So, let’s start sorting things out!

Usually shyness prevents us from fulfilling our dreams.

Being shy, we are afraid to perform in public, make acquaintances and talk about the pay rise with our boss. Keeping ourselves within certain limits, we simply prevent ourselves from being happy!

Such restrictions may result in the appearance of various complexes.

If we don’t manage to achieve the desired once, in the future we will regret, get angry and produce more and more complexes!

Complexes always affect people’s personal lives.

For example, a guy cannot get acquainted with a pretty girl if he considers himself to be ugly. Or a person cannot ask a stranger about time, because he/she is afraid to look annoying.

This article will help you to emancipate yourself and to release all your fears and apprehensions! So let’s fight shyness together, once and for all!

6 guidelines how to overcome shyness

Guideline 1. You will overcome shyness when you are aware of the fact that shyness prevents you from being successful!

Try and remember all moments in your life when you couldn’t enjoy your life to the fullest because of your shyness.

For example, you haven’t introduced yourself to the girl of your dreams, haven’t learnt to dance or haven’t managed to perform on the stage, etc.

After you fully realize the negative impression from such situations, think whether you want them to happen again. If your answer is negative, read guideline # 2.

Guideline 2. If you want to overcome shyness, communicate only with self-confident people!

«What troubles me is the Internet and the electronic technology revolution. Shyness is fueled in part by so many people spending huge amounts of time alone, isolated on e-mail, in chat rooms, which reduces their face-to-face contact with other people.»
Philip Zimbardo

First of all, you have to choose the proper environment.

What does it actually mean?

If you are surrounded by shy, intimidated and indecisive people, you will surely become one of them. Even if you aren’t exactly as shy as most of them, you will certainly be more shy than many emancipated and confident people!

This is why you should start communicating with self-confident people, despite the fact that their actions may look a bit crazy and spontaneous sometimes.

Don’t worry if you look like the most intimidated person in the company, soon you will learn how to be self-confident as well.

Keep in mind: it’s better to be the worst out of the best than to become the best out of the worst!

You may ask where these self-confident people can be found.


You may get acquainted with them in the clubs, gyms, cybercafés or even dating sites. Maybe, you already know several self-confident people but haven’t communicated with them yet.

Start spending more time with them and you will stop being shy!

Guideline 3. If you want to overcome shyness, start going in for sports.

Here some people may have doubts, thinking that sport has nothing to do with self-confidence.

However, I can assure you that these two notions are closely interrelated.

Sport develops will-power and self-confidence. Don’t you know that many former sportsmen become politicians, start their own business or become the outstanding coaches? This means that they are not acquainted with the notion of shyness!

For example, if you are a fat idler with too many hang-ups, you will not become self-confident any time soon.

However, if you start going in for sports and see the first changes in your figure, you will become more confident, stop stooping and finally start overcoming shyness! 😉

Guideline 4. Don’t be ashamed of your own thoughts!

Many people are afraid to express their own opinion because they don’t want to differ from the others.

Don’t be afraid of expressing yourself!

What if your own thoughts contain the fantastic ideas which may be useful for the rest of the world?

However, some people are not ready to express their ideas to others.

This usually happens due to the fear of the unknown. We don’t know what reaction we should expect: somebody may make fun of us; somebody may criticize us or call us crazy.

Nothing good can come out of such negative expectations; they will only suppress all our beginnings and dreams.

That’s why you should stop being ashamed of your thoughts!

Start expressing yourself and don’t be afraid of the criticism!

Keep in mind, long time ago people were executed and burnt because of their theories that Earth is round, but now numerous satellites and spacecrafts are flying around this round Earth in order to study it further!

Guideline 5. Be more optimistic.

Pessimists will never become self-confident!

However, our brain is more likely to remember bad and negative situations better than good ones.

Before starting a new project, pessimist will always consider a few negative outcomes of his/her actions, and end up doing nothing after these “wise” reflections!

If you truly want to overcome shyness, you have to look at things more optimistically.

For example, if you want to introduce yourself to a pretty girl, then go and do it! And don’t think that she may reject you, think that she may fall head over heels in love with you!

Positive attitude will help you to overcome shyness. Even if you fail at any situation, don’t grieve.

This time you haven’t managed to make an acquaintance with a beauty, but you will certainly succeed next time. This is how the self-confidence is actually acquired!!!

Guideline 6. Increase your self-esteem.

In order to stop being shy, you have to realize your significance, and this cannot be achieved without a high self-esteem!

If you value yourself, you will value your future as well.

Such attitude will help you to make your own decisions without paying attention to somebody else’s opinion.

Moreover, if you reach success, it will help you to get rid of shyness once and forever!

And the most important recommendation to you – don’t postpone the realization of these guidelines, start acting right now!

If you manage to follow the first guideline, you won’t have problems with the rest of them! 🙂

I hope that this article is the first step to the solving of your problem. Have a positive mood and a great day!

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